An open letter to working moms
Ok so I stumbled across this letter that caught my attention. I like the idea, it is affordable to be a stay-at-home mom if you change the way you live. I mean, sacrifice some things to get better ones. I could not imagine being away from my baby too long, and am glad that God gave me a providing husband to be able to stay at home with my son. You don't have to be rich to be a stay-at-home mom. I certainly am not, and many of my other friends out there are not surrounded by $$, yet they get to enjoy their kids much more than most working mothers.
You should read that post, click on it and then you will understand my comments. I agree to an extent what she says, but I feel like she makes it seem as if a stay-at-home mom, can't look her best or enjoy things that a working mother would. I mean I love thrift stores. They are my number 1 place to shop. You get good things, sometimes even new, for a couple of bucks. But that doesn't mean that I can't enjoy a trip to the mall. My #1 rule when I go to the mall is to never buy anything at full price. Everything I get, I get reduced. I go to JCPenny and head to the clearance section. I recently bought a couple of shirts for $2 each, you can't top that. She mentions that we can't be up to date with fashion because I guess we can't afford to look good, but I disagree. I always look my best (well at least when i go to church or the store), but I try to, even though I rarely go out, because I have a husband. I must look pretty for him, because men are men, humans with temptations and they have eyes, and I make sure my husband's eyes are always on me. Plus my body is the Lord's temple and you wouldn't like to go into a messy looking church, would you???
"They might be among the sad minority that does not possess a laptop or cell phone." Sad?? Really?? She make it sound terrible. I don't think it's "sad" not to have a cell phone. I grew up in a very low-income house, and my parents couldn't afford many things. Yet I was never sad because I didn't have a computer or cell. Thank God for public libraries, in which I spent most nights finishing essays and reports. Thank God for Black Friday. I got a laptop for $200. Of course it was many years of savings, but I got there.
You don't have to settle for less. Isn't our God the almighty? Isn't he the one to provide. He is our father and he does tell us to seek and we shall find. I don't have a beatdown car, I have a 2005 Mazda 6. And you know how much I paid for it? $3,000. I bought it at an auction. It had been crashed, but praise God for my husband. He is my everything...literaly...my everything. I need a mechanic, he is one. If something breaks, he fixes it. He is a construction worker and a mechanic and does many other trades. I never have to pay to fix anything because he does it all. Thank God for my DH, I love him sooo much.
Any ways, if you want to be a stay at home mom, it's possible. The problem is that this world is used to having too many wants and can't settle with just the needs. Sure it would be nice give your kids eveything they want, but what they really need is you, their mom. They need to be under your supervision, not someone else's. I have a dear friend who is a stay at home mom, but hasn't always been. And she has only been home about 10 months, and already she is desperate to find a job, because she can't "afford" it. She could if she would give up many things that to me are a waste of time. She could stop going out every weekend. Yes you do need to spend quality time with your husband, but dinner and a movie is alot cheaper if you do it at home. I usually do that every Sat night. Rent a movie and cook something he loves, or something we would get at the movies, like hotdogs and popcorn. If she would change her plan. She pays double what I pay, and my plan is better. Unlimited is avaiable with most prepaid companies, but some people just don't want to leave those expensive companies like Sprint and Verizon.
Another thing is couponing. I love coupons. Everything I get, most has coupons. Look for places that double like Kmart and save even more. I get tons of Colgate and Crest toothpast for almost nothing. I stock up on shampoo, Pantene, for $1 each.
So what I am saying is that if you start living a frugal life, you can affor to stay home. You don't have to live like a poor person, because we can't be poor. Our father is the father of riches. He will provide if you trust him. Give Him a try, and I garantee He won't let you down.